Valentines day is almost upon us. The holiday for Love. We send hearts, jewelry, candy and flowers, telling our beloved how much we adore them. It comes after what is often considered “divorce month”. According to Focus on the Family, more couples file for divorce in January than any other time of the year.
In today’s society, we divorce for a multitude of reasons. Infidelity, money, I thought I liked … but now I can’t stand them. I have heard I just can’s stand how they…
Then the other day, I heard someone say “everyone tells me I should dump my husband, he is addicted to meth”. He is clean right now, I know he might not be tomorrow; but he needs me.
I remember thinking WOW someone that actually loves their spouse. While I might not know about meth first hand, I do know the testimony of a couple of addicts. One lost her children, was in jail several times. One stole from everyone and finally wanted a big score and had jail time.
Not all families forgive their addicts. But this lady knew what to expect. She was an addict. She said, he might lie to me, steal from me, he might end up in jail. But he is my husband, God gave him to me and I will Love him until one of us dies. She had been clean for several years. He had relapses and had only been clean for a few months.
But the important point: She said “He is my husband God gave him to me and I will LOVE him until one of us dies”. Her marriage is not disposable.
See God did not intend for marriage to be disposable. God intends for marriage to be for as “long as you both shall live”.
We have to learn to work out our differences.
STAND UP AND SAY, MY MARRIAGE IS NOT DISPOSABLE. MY FAMILY IS NOT DISPOSABLE.
1 Corinthians 13: 6-7 NIV
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
If this valentine’s day your marriage is floundering, give the gift of I want to work this out- The gift of LOVE.
You can get help- many pastors/priests offer free marital counseling.
Focus on the Family: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/
Family Life Ministries: http://familylifeministries.org/
James Dobson: http://www.drjamesdobson.org/
Are just a few of the ministries that have counselors that are there willing to help. Connect with one because your marriage is not supposed to be disposable.